Women of a New Season: Making hard decisions

Proverbs 3: 5-6:  Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

Decisions, decisions, decisions.  Ever have to make a tough one?  Man, I have.  I’ve had a lot of them to make since my husband passed away.  When you’ve had a solid life partner that talked everything over with you, and then suddenly one day, it’s all on you.  No, sounding board, no one to take the heat if things go awry. It’s a little unnerving. 

Here’s the secret to that.  The verse above.  We still have the Lord, no matter if we are now alone in life’s journey, or if we are with that partner, we still have God there to lead and guide us in times of confusion and even chaos.

We all face decisions daily: Do I try for a better job, or stay where I know it’s safe?  Do I marry him although I don’t really feel head over heels in love and I’ve seen a few red flags? Should we try to start a family in this time of turmoil on earth? Should we stay in this church where we don’t really feel comfortable? Should I agree to the treatment my doctor wants, or should I get a second opinion?

Decisions are never easy.  We worry about investing our money, we worry about saving money, we worry about losing our job, worry, worry, worry.  It seems to creep in when there are decisions to make.

Proverbs 3: 7: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil.

When I have tough decisions to make, I seek advice from those in the know.  Financial advice, advice on taxes, go to the experts. Medical advice, my doctor or my daughters, who are long time experienced nurses. Spiritual advice, to my leaders in my denomination, and before them, the Lord.  I pray about it.  He always answers, and confirms.

When I make a decision, I run it through a filter.  By asking a few questions.  Will this decision harm my Christian witness?  Does it line up with Scripture? Do I have peace about it?  That last one is a real help.  If you feel apprehensive hold off on doing anything.  Wait until you get that full blown Shalom.  Peace, nothing broken, nothing missing.

Life is full of difficult decisions, and yes, we will all make the wrong ones from time to time.  Some are life changing, so lean not on your own understanding, but rather, trust God.  He will never lead you the wrong way.  Until next time!


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