John 5: 44:  How do you expect to get anywhere with God when you spend all your time jockeying for position with each other, ranking your rivals and ignoring God?  (MSG).

            When we allow our lives to be defined by people, we will soon see God’s influence on our lives beginning to fade.

            When I was a young woman in my twenties, I ran around with three other girls. We sincerely liked each other, but somehow comparison raised its ugly head and we began to pick at one another, and it was always about our looks. When this sort of rivalry goes on, insecure feelings are going to manifest. Looking back on those days I have to laugh, “just out of your teen years,” drama, was more than anyone would want.  We were immature girls, and at that stage of life we all focused on our looks.

            Later on, after becoming a Christian I have seen that the old comparison trap is still alive and well. Now it may be who gets the solo in the choir, or why did she get the Young Adult Class to teach?  After all, I’m more qualified?

            Women are far more likely than men to play this comparison game.  A group of ladies may be having lunch when a very attractive girl goes by.  Someone may comment that she is drop dead gorgeous, and almost immediately someone will say, “If only her hips weren’t so wide” or “her hair has got to be a dye job.” Don’t act innocent, we’ve all be guilty of that at one time or another. It’s that same old insecurity arising from comparison.

            Looks aren’t the only place it shows up. Perhaps it’s a talent.  Someone seems steeped in gifts.  She sings, she paints, she plays three instruments and she was asked to speak at a women’s group. Then your friends start saying how awesome she is.  You’ve tried public speaking and it terrifies you.  The only thing you can play is the radio, and as far as art goes, a stick-figure is too complicated. So right away you say something like, “But, she probably has a dirty house because she has no time to clean and be a homemaker.”

            We all have talents. You just have to discover yours and cultivate it.  It may take practice, but hard work is never wasted. We have a great women’s group in our church, called SHE. Within that group I have six ladies who meet with me once a month, to plan events and to develop our talents.  It’s our goal that each of these ladies will one day have a small group of her own to train. We don’t have to be rivals with one another.  There are too many women and girls out there who need someone to show them how important they are to Jesus. We can rest assured that God created us in His image, it doesn’t get any better than that.

We are like snowflakes, no two of us are alike.  Fingerprints too.  We were made different for a reason. (Wouldn’t it be boring if we were all alike?  And if you and I were exactly alike, one of us would be unnecessary).

            Our main purpose on this earth is to worship God and win souls into His Kingdom. You can reach the people I can’t.  Some people who are repelled by one of us, would be drawn to another. That’s why God made us different. One woman may bless you with a song, another with homemade cookies, and still another with her equestrian skills. But we are all necessary and vital to God’s plan.  Find your slot. Until next time!

            Let’s talk:  Paula 304-677-9220 



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