Women of a New Season: Are you a Marry or a Martha?

Luke 10: 40-42:  But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore, tell her to help me.”  And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things.  But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.”

My sister and I were talking on the phone a couple of days ago, about how much there is to accomplish during this holiday season.  Decorating, shopping, wrapping gifts, cookie and candy making, and well, you know the list. She said she believed she was a Martha.  I told her I felt I was a Mary a lot of times, although I can be both.  But, if I’m into a good Bible study, I can sit right down with a dust cloth beside me and read or research.

Probably most Christian women can be both, because we do tend to worry about having this or that just right for company.  My husband used to say that I should clean the house after they leave rather than before they come, because then you’re doing it twice. He may have been on the right track with that.

When we worry and fret over preparing this, cleaning that, and having certain things just perfect, we wear ourselves out.  Then we don’t have time for our Bible reading or daily devotional.  As a new Christian I didn’t understand Jesus saying that to Martha.  I actually thought He was uncaring about her plea.  But, now, I can see the truth.  Keeping a perfect house, or preparing wonderful treats are nice, but they aren’t lasting.  The things of Christ, learning about Him, how to live for Him and hanging on to Him, those are the things that get us through troubled times.

Since my husband passed away, a well- kept house is little or no comfort for me. Having things aren’t important.  I can’t concentrate on a movie for long, no matter how big the screen.  I think often about all the wonderful things Chuck and I did, and tried to do, to make our home more comfortable and appealing, then I realize how paltry and insignificant those things would seem to Chuck in Heaven. But Jesus! Being with Him, knowing Him, seeing Him, and the glory around Him, those things are what really matter.

Please don’t misunderstand, we should care for our family, take care of our homes and spend time with friends and loved ones, but we must never ignore Jesus. Set a time aside for your time with Him.  It can be whatever works best for you.  Late morning is my best study time.  I do a little Bible reading at night and if I’m doing a devotional I usually do it at bedtime, but I also may do it during the day.  I’m pretty sure I should do a little reading when I first get out of bed, to start my day off right, but I don’t usually do that.  That will be one of my goals, to start that habit. I’m not morning person.  My husband loved to read in the morning and I would wake up many a morning to find him on the porch with his Bible and coffee.  He used to tell me that he could stay up till two in the morning reading a novel, but fall dead asleep at 10 pm trying to read his Bible.  We are all different.  Some of you reading this are Martha’s others are more like Mary. Martha needs to spend more time with Jesus, and Mary needs to leave time for the daily things we need to accomplish.  The best part is, both love Jesus, and Jesus loves both.  Until next time!


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